Thinking about taking a break may seem like the end. It may seem like the whole world is going to collapse on you and you can’t possibly be without this sweet person in your life. Now, it depends on your age or where you are in life, and in this blog, I focus on the millennial, so this will pertain to you if you are in that bracket. GIRL, you don’t need them right now! Let me tell you why…
Opportunities you weren’t able to commit to before.
At some point in any relationship, there comes a time where you will have to decide between your significant other and a choice to do something that you would have done if you were single. This decision may be due to location or time away from each other.
You might not have gotten a chance to go on a month-long trip of a lifetime because you didn’t want to part from your other S.O. for that long of a period, or there is a job position that may require a decent amount of traveling to start, since you are a newbie in the field.
Now is your time! Take this time to focus on solely yourself and get out there. Explore the world without someone holding you back.
Seeing the relationship from a new point of view.
It can be hard to see what’s right in front of you when you’re in the middle of it. It’s a challenge to take a voluntary step back and look at things from a perspective different than your own. During the break you might see changes that need to be made or compromises that you can work on to better the relationship as a whole.
It takes a lot to get this done, but this break will allow you to look through this outer lens.
You can find yourself.
You may not have been with your significant other for that long.
Or you have.
Either way, you should definitely use this break to look at yourself and see what you may have stopped working on or what you just never thought was fully you.
Being with someone for a long time can really mold how you view yourself and how you mold yourself as a being. You may start to mold into this other person as well. This isn’t bad, but it’s also so important to know who you are and what you can do.
Maybe, this is the time when you will truly know yourself better than you ever have.
The cool-down and processing time.
Maybe you’ve started to feel some negative built-up feelings about your other half. If this break was time to think, that is totally acceptable. Some people just need time to process things, whether this be an argument, huge disagreement or something that they thought they were over, but turns out it was really laying dormant.
A break is not a break-up.
And it sure as h-ll isn’t a time to hook up with other people. It’s a time to think about the relationship, work on it by yourself, and then together talk about what is happening. Relationships aren’t supposed to be easy, and life has proven it to be true. Two different people living together in harmony? Impossible.
What is possible is the idea that logical thinking, feelings and commitment will shine through in the end.
What does a break mean to you?